In this ever changing world of relationship status and life goals, can we really still be friends?
I recently had a wonderful conversation with a friend of mine, and we both agreed how different our friendships felt now that we both were married. How distant some friends had become, while others, it was just hard to relate to anymore. What does it mean to still be friends?
I spent quite a bit of time thinking out about this, and how to rectify my own feelings. The last three years have held a lot of changes. Putting aside for a moment the effect this had on me personally, let's see the journey.
3 years ago: I was dating my then boyfriend, thinking of graduation a year away, and I had my whole life planned out. I knew exactly where I would be, what I would do, whom I would be married to. Everything. At the same time, my best friend and her boyfriend were is a really great place, and we were planning our wedding. Because they both, just had to be right around the corner right?
2 years ago: My then boyfriend of 2 years and I broke up. I was single, and my best friend was going strong with her man. My other best friend had just gotten married, and other friends were having babies, buying houses, and moving on with their lives. I was right back where I started 2 years prior, lost, and stuck. I did not take the high road, and made things increasingly difficult on my friends. I was dating, partying, clubbing, looking for guys and fun. And they had already settled into their stable(and successful) relationships. I was struggling in school due to my own errors, and my best friend had graduated, and started working full time.(and she was Killin' it!). I was left behind, and felt like I was a failure for not having made this relationship work. I, obviously, was just never going to catch up, and somehow, I thought at the time, that my life was less significant an important, because I could not "get it together"
1 year ago: I got married, after successfully graduating. I got a great corporate job straight out out college, moved to Dallas, TX with my husband, and prepared for our wedding.(Long story, let's talk about it another time?) My one best friend was applying to law school, still killing it at her job, and really moving her life forward. My other best friend, found out she and her husband were pregnant with their first baby! Everyone's lives had moved forward.
Now: I have a new job I am killing it at. We bought a house earlier this year, and babies are definitely not coming up in the near future. My one best friend started law school, after suffering an immeasurable loss, and I am constantly amazed by her strength and grace. Her and her boyfriend are super successful(They are going to be the best lawyers ever). My other best friend has a beautiful baby boy, her and her husband are working and doing great, and in the end, everyone still moved their lives forward.
What is the point?:
1) Everyone gets there when they will get there.
Seriously, if I had just slowed down, and stopped comparing my life to all of my friends and family, I would have realized I was doing just fine. All that stress and worry about not being good enough, or catching up, it just wasn't worth it.
2) Everyone has their own journey. Stop trying to make it yours'!
If I had just been more mindful, I would have realized that we are all on our own path. We carve it out with our sweat and blood, and judging each other's(or our own), does no good. Let it be, and let your life be a journey, not a marathon race against everyone you know.
3) and finally, SERIOUSLY.. life will move forward anyway.
Whether you stress it or not, compare or not. Life will move forward, or it won't. And there is not much you can do about that, besides being consistent in your daily life, and doing the absolute best you can.
With Love! xoxo
Sincerely yours,
Rhiannon
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That being said, I am predicting quite a bit of color this year, as well as blush really being a big thing. Man coats, and generally erratic patterns have been really in lately, so we will just have to see.
What do you think is going to be the big Fall Fashion?